I wish to ask you about what A Course in Miracles means by Holy Relationship. In one area of the book it covers "entering the ark" together, and it almost sounds like you will need an added specific person to be able to awaken. Therefore, I believe I approach each new person with the expectation that maybe THIS could possibly be the partnership that reflects enlightenment to me, and I to them! Am I taking this too literally? Or do you really have to have another to assist you awaken?


I appreciate your time so much and thanks for the help to me and others. I thanks and I thank God for you. Namaste.


David Hoffmeister: Thanks for the openness and your willingness to check deeply at what's underneath these topics and issues a course in miracles teacher. A Course in Miracles teaches that the split mind contains both the situation (the ego) and the Solution (the Holy Spirit). When they are brought together, only One remains.




The human body and the planet are always the focus of ego's perspective, for it seeks to produce real problems and struggles on the planet and to prevent the inner Healing Correction of the Holy Spirit. The ego's distorted world is the merchandise of identity confusion, an outpicturing of the belief that it is possible to produce an identity which God didn't create. The ego is this identity problem and it had been Answered or forgiven by the Holy Spirit the instant it seemed to arise. That one problem could possibly be described as an authority problem or a confusion in who is the author of Reality. The mind that believes in the reality of the time-space cosmos has a get a grip on issue, for it believes that it can make itself. This ego mind also thinks it's in competition with God, although this is pushed out of conscious awareness. This unconscious ego thought system is exposed in the A Course in Miracles Workbook lessons, and Lesson 13 contains an excellent example with this unveiling:


"A meaningless world engenders fear because I believe I am in competition with God."


This is the start of training your brain to forgive, for the focus is brought back to your brain, back once again to thinking, and removed from the human body and the world. Anorexia, weight issues, body image issues, and interpersonal relationship issues are types of projection, of seeing the situation where it's not: in the world. The mind cannot tolerate the belief in a battle with God, which means this belief is pushed out of awareness. The deep-seated control issue such a belief entails is then projected to the human body and the world. Weight control, like any attempt to manage the script or the human body, is an attempt to manage the past. The Holy Spirit teaches that yesteryear can just only be forgiven or released or seen as false—not fixed or controlled or changed.


Exactly the same ego dynamic is underneath interpersonal relationship struggles of power and control, of wanting to correct or change an individual or a self-image. Personal relationships may appear to sail happily along for awhile, yet the make-believe self-concept IS the private perspective and thus is definitely on shaky ground. Decisions are continuous. The Holy Spirit is just a decision. The ego is just a decision. Atonement is the decision that ends all decisions, an acceptance of the changelessness of Mind. The ego is the decision to trust that your brain may be separate from God. Once your brain believed that it had separated and built this time-space world, this time-space world of bodies became its substitute identity, as it believed it had discarded the Kingdom of Heaven. The planet was made up as a substitute identity. The sleeping mind is split on the decision of identity. The Holy Spirit says, "This world is not Identity. This world is an illusion." And thus the Holy Spirit reminds your brain constantly, "This world is not your Home. This world is not your Identity. This world is not real." As the mind is split it's hearing another voice (the ego) that's saying: "You've done it. You've separated from God. You'd better make the best of it and find something of the planet to spot with. You can never return for God will punish you."


Thought-form associations seem to become substitute identity. The ego mind seems to be identified with the human body, with family, with environments that appear to surround it (i.e., I'm an American, Japanese, I'm male, I'm female, I'm from a rich family, from an unhealthy family, I'm Catholic, Jewish, Protestant, etc.) Most of these are thought-form associations. And these seeming other persons and places surrounding the little personal self are typical part with this construction. The mind is very shaky concerning this small identity, this small self, this little me. So the little me is shaky, and it seems like other persons give the little me reality and importance (i.e., you're my son, my daughter, you're my boss, you're a loving father, etc.) and all the different issues that these images appear to be telling this little me appear to be really important. Praise thus seems very important (i.e., you're an individual and you're a great one!).


Praise and acceptance from others SEEM to stabilize this very shaky thing (i.e., you're a great lover, you're a great provider, you're great with the youngsters, you've a superb intellect, you've such a heart, you help serve so many other people, you're a great team-player, on and on). This part of the self-concept says that you are an individual and you've all of these positive attributes that actually allow you to an invaluable and worthy person, which make you stand out above the crowd. You're not merely anyone—you're somebody special. The flip side is criticism, which directly reflects the shaky sense of self. Criticism will be: you're never as great as you believe you're, you're not such a good team player, such a good provider, so good in bed—all the things which are taken as insults to the private self-concept). That's the flip side of the strokes. To this ego self-concept that believes both parties (the positive and negative) of thinking are real, the Holy Spirit is perceived as a great threat, for the Holy Spirit leads to the knowledge of forgiveness or the realization that none of the tiny images perceived as separate have any reality.


When the criticism seems ahead, the ego attempts a substitution. It thinks, "I don't need this. I'll go elsewhere and start other relationships with people who is able to appreciate my talents and skills and abilities, appreciate my personhood. I'll avoid those negative influences on the planet and those negative people. I'll find another person or join friends where folks are like-minded and neglect the remaining world. These new people will require to me and stroke me and praise me." The attempt at substitution is an attempt to maintain an expression of specialness, an expression of separation, an expression of individuality (a private mind with private thoughts). Those attempts are special love relationships. They appear to reinforce worth and value and to validate personhood. And they provide a false witness for clinging to the ego as identity. To the ego, past associations serve to offer personhood some sense of stability and consistency and value. Yet, the Holy Spirit shows that past associations offer nothing of value, for they certainly were produced by the ego to deny the facts of God's Love.


Holy relationship emphasizes and reflects Content (right-minded thinking) and posseses an awareness of the meaninglessness of form. As the ego's believed relationships will appear to be specific, yet each one will present an opportunity to release the belief in specifics. Divine Mind is Abstract and Universal. Forgiveness may be the bridge to the remembrance of Christ and God, Divine Abstraction. Thus the Holy Spirit teaches in A Course in Miracles:


"Once you meet anyone, remember it is just a holy encounter. As you see him you will see yourself. As you treat him you'll treat yourself. As you consider him you'll consider yourself. Always remember this, for in him you will find yourself or lose yourself. Whenever two Sons of God meet, they are given another chance at salvation. Do not leave anyone without giving salvation to him and receiving it yourself. For I am always there with you, in remembrance of you.